Is it normal and ok to get nervous going to a reader ?

My mother said that if im nervous im mote closed off ? I dont belive so as I have anxiety easily but I am a very open person! Its just I get nervous with the unknown, or being judged or hearing something that may hurt me or even the fact hearing something in which I never knew that was kept from me or what the other person truly thought eg "My mom secretly doesn't like the fact im gay"