Tarot while you’re grieving?

Do you guys turn to your decks during times of grief or loss? What questions do you ask, what spreads do you use? I recently lost my dad and find myself turning to my deck for comfort (and also to hopefully tune into him somehow), but I’m just sort of aimlessly drawing cards instead of doing any kind of reflecting. I want to touch on the subject but I don’t really know how. How do you focus yourself, especially when your mind is sort of clouded over and sad?